恭祝各位新春大吉大利，身心靈健康，
家庭和睦，甜甜蜜蜜，心想事成，恩典相隨！
2012年1月23日星期一
2012年1月9日星期一
Testimonial from an international professional advisory firm
I am so happy to recieve a testimonial from my corporate client after delivering the "Time Management Seminar: Quality Time for Kids " on 4 Jan 2012.
“Ms. Lee shared useful insights into what constitutes balanced and quality parenting in a way which was practical for our busy modern professionals. Exploring the characteristics of quality time and work-life balance encouraged our people to reassess priorities at home and redefine effectiveness at work.“
- An international professional advisory firm
“Ms. Lee shared useful insights into what constitutes balanced and quality parenting in a way which was practical for our busy modern professionals. Exploring the characteristics of quality time and work-life balance encouraged our people to reassess priorities at home and redefine effectiveness at work.“
- An international professional advisory firm
2011年12月17日星期六
做教練，無港孩、親子心連心 : 創造孩子的傳奇－親子教練啓導課程
以下是你的期望嗎？
想孩子聽教聽話，減少親子之間的衝突；
想成為有權威的父母，同時與孩子保持親密的關係；
不想做港爸與港媽，想培養孩子成為有目標、有自信、和獨立思考的人
內容：
什麼是親子教練？
傳統父母與親子教練的分別
我怎樣「問」，孩子才會聽
我怎樣「聽」，孩子才會說
如何運用語言提昇孩子的自信
運用GROW Model與孩子溝通
示範及實踐教練模式與孩子溝通
家長管教子女個案研討
参加對象: 8至15歲子女的父母 、教師
日期: 2012年及2月25日、3月3日、3月10日 (星期六 )
時間 : 下午2時15分 至 下午6時
上課地點：九龍尖沙咀柯士甸路22-26A號好兆年行703室
費用 : 每位 $2,680 , 二人同行每位$ 2,480
( 2012年1月18日前報名，減收 $200)
人數 : 20人 ( 額滿即止 )
導師 : Coach Lee (李慧蘭 )
報名查詢 : 37585269 /29614252 電郵 : info@wisdom-tc.com.hk, 網頁 : http://www.wisdom-tc.com/
「 家長心聲: 「媽媽，你不要煩！」，「我不知道！」這些孩子的答話，令我十分困擾，尤其當其身體語言是當我這個媽媽是隱形人，便有想一巴掌賞給他的衝動。這亦是我決定参加家長教練課的原因，在此課程裹，我學識了什麼是家長的責任，培養孩子訂立自己的人生目標，不是我替他訂目標，亦因為我的性急，往往在孩子未整理好思絮，便己替其擬定計劃，沒有給他鍛鍊的機會。很多謝Coach Lee的指導，指正我問題所在，我亦知道我未學滿師，仍須参與進階課程，學好教練技巧，從而學懂和現今子女由少年蛻變為青少年的相處模式。 ------Lily」
想孩子聽教聽話，減少親子之間的衝突；
想成為有權威的父母，同時與孩子保持親密的關係；
不想做港爸與港媽，想培養孩子成為有目標、有自信、和獨立思考的人
內容：
什麼是親子教練？
傳統父母與親子教練的分別
我怎樣「問」，孩子才會聽
我怎樣「聽」，孩子才會說
如何運用語言提昇孩子的自信
運用GROW Model與孩子溝通
示範及實踐教練模式與孩子溝通
家長管教子女個案研討
参加對象: 8至15歲子女的父母 、教師
日期: 2012年及2月25日、3月3日、3月10日 (星期六 )
時間 : 下午2時15分 至 下午6時
上課地點：九龍尖沙咀柯士甸路22-26A號好兆年行703室
費用 : 每位 $2,680 , 二人同行每位$ 2,480
( 2012年1月18日前報名，減收 $200)
人數 : 20人 ( 額滿即止 )
導師 : Coach Lee (李慧蘭 )
報名查詢 : 37585269 /29614252 電郵 : info@wisdom-tc.com.hk, 網頁 : http://www.wisdom-tc.com/
「 家長心聲: 「媽媽，你不要煩！」，「我不知道！」這些孩子的答話，令我十分困擾，尤其當其身體語言是當我這個媽媽是隱形人，便有想一巴掌賞給他的衝動。這亦是我決定参加家長教練課的原因，在此課程裹，我學識了什麼是家長的責任，培養孩子訂立自己的人生目標，不是我替他訂目標，亦因為我的性急，往往在孩子未整理好思絮，便己替其擬定計劃，沒有給他鍛鍊的機會。很多謝Coach Lee的指導，指正我問題所在，我亦知道我未學滿師，仍須参與進階課程，學好教練技巧，從而學懂和現今子女由少年蛻變為青少年的相處模式。 ------Lily」
2011年12月1日星期四
十二月份家長同學會---如何明白少年心？
孩子升上中學，你會發覺子女已長大，他喜歡和朋友相處多於和父母一起，你想了解他的生活，他卻未必願意告訴你 ，他甚至經常埋怨「你好煩」，他上Facebook 不願意加你為朋友，父母心中難受，不知所措，甚至忐忑不安，「這麼近，那麼遠！」正是許多父母無奈的心聲！
Coach Lee將會幫助你了解青春期子女的心理 ，幫助你解開上述情況之謎，並告訴你與青春期子女如何「用心溝通」，並啟發你與少年子女溝通的盲點。
聚會詳情：
日期：2011年12日12日(星期一)
內容 及時間：
第一部份 晚上7:00. 至7:15 -- 登記及繳費
第二部份 晚上7:15. 至 9:15-- Coach Lee短講、家長分享、現場教練
參加資格：有10歲或以上子女的家長或對此題目有興趣的人士
費用: 每位收費 $ 120 (現場繳費)
地點 :九龍油麻地彌敦道518號彌敦行二樓
報名查詢及留位 : 請電37585269或29614252
網頁: 創慧網页http://www.wisdom-tc.com.hk/, 電郵: info@wisdom-tc.com.hk
人數 : 20人 (先到先得)
（做個輕鬆快樂的父母，立即和朋友一同報名參加）
2011年11月15日星期二
「創造孩子的傳奇」親子教練啟導工作坊 ---三位家長的心聲
Chermaine (兩位女兒的母親)
你教授這個課程對我有很大的啟發和幫助，讓我看見我與女兒相處和溝通上的盲點，提醒我要持一個開放的心，專心聆聽她的說話（以及言下之意），透過開放式的提問去多了解她並幫助她訂下目標，不要為她設下太窄的框框，而要給予她空間探索和成長，並且要多用讚賞去發掘她的優點。最開心的是，這些溝通技巧和心法不但適用於教養兒女上，更有助我平日與丈夫、朋友及同事的相處。
你說得對：父母變，子女就會變。多謝您！
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Edwoon ( 三位子女的父親)
「媽媽，你不要煩！」，「我不知道！」這些孩子的答話。令我十分困擾，尤其當其身體語言是當我這個媽媽是隱形人，便有想一巴掌賞給他的衝動。這亦是我決定参加家長教練課的原因，在此課程裹，我學識了什麼是家長的責任，培養孩子訂立自己的人生目標，不是我替他訂目標，亦因為我的性急，往往在孩子未整理好思絮，便己替其擬定計劃，沒有給他鍛鍊的機會。很多謝 Coach Lee 的指導，指正我問題所在，我亦知道我未學滿師，仍須参與進階課程，學好教練技巧，從而學懂和現今子女由少年蛻變為青少年的相處摸式。
你教授這個課程對我有很大的啟發和幫助，讓我看見我與女兒相處和溝通上的盲點，提醒我要持一個開放的心，專心聆聽她的說話（以及言下之意），透過開放式的提問去多了解她並幫助她訂下目標，不要為她設下太窄的框框，而要給予她空間探索和成長，並且要多用讚賞去發掘她的優點。最開心的是，這些溝通技巧和心法不但適用於教養兒女上，更有助我平日與丈夫、朋友及同事的相處。
你說得對：父母變，子女就會變。多謝您！
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Edwoon ( 三位子女的父親)
在香港社會裹，我們須處理的事情實在太多了，每件事只注重得到結果或答案，往往忽視過程及問題的根源，教養孩子亦用上這種思維，往往得到相反的效果，特別在與青少年子女相處更為明顯，而我欣賞Coach Lee 提醒我們用另一角度去處理，用問「問題」的方式溝通，以平等的態度引導會孩子找到答案，我和青少年的子女相處變得容易，我亦學懂鼓勵和讚美孩子的品格來肯定孩子的價值，從而建立其自信。在整個課程，Coach Lee 亦用同樣的方向，合家長們更有信心與孩子一起走未來的路。
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Lily (兩位兒子的媽媽)
「媽媽，你不要煩！」，「我不知道！」這些孩子的答話。令我十分困擾，尤其當其身體語言是當我這個媽媽是隱形人，便有想一巴掌賞給他的衝動。這亦是我決定参加家長教練課的原因，在此課程裹，我學識了什麼是家長的責任，培養孩子訂立自己的人生目標，不是我替他訂目標，亦因為我的性急，往往在孩子未整理好思絮，便己替其擬定計劃，沒有給他鍛鍊的機會。很多謝 Coach Lee 的指導，指正我問題所在，我亦知道我未學滿師，仍須参與進階課程，學好教練技巧，從而學懂和現今子女由少年蛻變為青少年的相處摸式。
What did Irene say about the Parent Coaching Workshop ?
Irene ( Mom of a nine year's old boy) :
This is the BEST parenting course I have ever joined! It is so insightful, inspiring and totally exceeds my expectation.
"Being a coach" to my son is really a new, yet important, concept to me. Our child is the gift from God and Coach Lee always reminds us our role is to assist him to excel his potential (not follow exactly what we want him to be). We are the one who offer him guidance and direction but NOT instruction. To this end, Coach Lee has coached us how to align goal with our kids, how to make our conversation more positive and effective, how to ask inspiring question and how to be an open-minded parents....all these skills are practical, useful and you know, it works well when I apply these skill sets while interacting with my son. I would say thank you to Coach Lee as she is a fantastic coach and has offered us invaluable way of thinking which I have never thought of. Million Thanks!
This is the BEST parenting course I have ever joined! It is so insightful, inspiring and totally exceeds my expectation.
"Being a coach" to my son is really a new, yet important, concept to me. Our child is the gift from God and Coach Lee always reminds us our role is to assist him to excel his potential (not follow exactly what we want him to be). We are the one who offer him guidance and direction but NOT instruction. To this end, Coach Lee has coached us how to align goal with our kids, how to make our conversation more positive and effective, how to ask inspiring question and how to be an open-minded parents....all these skills are practical, useful and you know, it works well when I apply these skill sets while interacting with my son. I would say thank you to Coach Lee as she is a fantastic coach and has offered us invaluable way of thinking which I have never thought of. Million Thanks!
2011年11月14日星期一
What is Quality Time with Our Children ?
What Is Quality Time With Our Children?
By Susana Alves Share
Is it the time we spend watching television with them? Is it the time we spend reading to them, eating with them, putting them to bed, washing them, playing sports with them in the yard, or is it the time we spend with them on our long commute to work and school?
It is all of these. Quality time with our children is time with our children. Even the minutes or hours we spend arguing with them and punishing them is quality time. When you think back about your own childhood, what do you remember most, is it the great big stuffed animal your parents bought you, or is it the stupid little rubber ducky one of them won for you at the local fair or the amusement park. Maybe you don't even remember what the prize was, but simply that someone tried hard to win it for you and did.
In our age of consumerism and lack of time we often forget that what brings closeness between two people isn't the money they spend on each other, but the time and attention that they spend on each other. When we fall in love, though we may shower gifts on one another, what we give most is our time and attention. We treasure the gifts not for their monetary value, but rather because we treasure who gave them. How did we come to treasure that person? With time.
Inherently, I believe we all know this. That is why the absent parent feels guilty and buys large and expensive gifts for the child in order to minimize her guilt. However, these gifts mean little to a child on an emotional level. Five minutes spent reading a story, watching the child's favorite cartoon or just hanging out, have more meaning. Even the time we force our children to help us clean up the kitchen with us brings more closeness than any gift we could buy.
So what do you do if you both work long hours, and your child spends most of his day in your absence? You make yourself available to them when you are with them. If you can't interrupt what you are doing, have them join you. Even if they can't help, they can be in the same room. When you are upset about work or anything else, be irritable, you can't help it, but explain yourself. Explain what made you upset, correlate it to something they will understand from their own relationships with their peers. Share your disappointments as well as your accomplishments with them and they will share theirs with you.
When we first fall in love or begin a friendship with someone we spend hours talking about everything and nothing, we recount our childhood, our fears, and our dreams. Through this we gain closeness with others. To gain closeness with our children we need to tell them these stories as well. When we allow our children to see us as we are, they trust us.
Quality time is time, this doesn't mean that you should spend every waking hour with your child. It means that you should be together when you can. For example, with an older child, have them help you prepare dinner, even if it doesn't save you time, instead of allowing them to be in the other room watching television alone. Take an hour a week to just sit and watch a television program that they like or each of you read your own book on the same couch.
When commuting together, turn off the radio and the MP3 player and instead talk. If they don't want to talk, they can listen to you recount your day. By hearing you recount your day, your challenges, and how you overcame them or how you didn't overcome them, they will learn from you how you deal with problems and they will learn how to tell you about their own day. Magically the wasted commute time, becomes quality time with your children.
When you feel close to your children and they feel close to you, you won't feel guilty that you are not spending enough time with them. You will not magically feel like the perfect parent either. They don't exist, as a parent you will always feel guilty or incompetent about something. But if you feel close to your children and they to you, the burden is lighter.
Written by Susana Alves
By Susana Alves Share
Is it the time we spend watching television with them? Is it the time we spend reading to them, eating with them, putting them to bed, washing them, playing sports with them in the yard, or is it the time we spend with them on our long commute to work and school?
It is all of these. Quality time with our children is time with our children. Even the minutes or hours we spend arguing with them and punishing them is quality time. When you think back about your own childhood, what do you remember most, is it the great big stuffed animal your parents bought you, or is it the stupid little rubber ducky one of them won for you at the local fair or the amusement park. Maybe you don't even remember what the prize was, but simply that someone tried hard to win it for you and did.
In our age of consumerism and lack of time we often forget that what brings closeness between two people isn't the money they spend on each other, but the time and attention that they spend on each other. When we fall in love, though we may shower gifts on one another, what we give most is our time and attention. We treasure the gifts not for their monetary value, but rather because we treasure who gave them. How did we come to treasure that person? With time.
Inherently, I believe we all know this. That is why the absent parent feels guilty and buys large and expensive gifts for the child in order to minimize her guilt. However, these gifts mean little to a child on an emotional level. Five minutes spent reading a story, watching the child's favorite cartoon or just hanging out, have more meaning. Even the time we force our children to help us clean up the kitchen with us brings more closeness than any gift we could buy.
So what do you do if you both work long hours, and your child spends most of his day in your absence? You make yourself available to them when you are with them. If you can't interrupt what you are doing, have them join you. Even if they can't help, they can be in the same room. When you are upset about work or anything else, be irritable, you can't help it, but explain yourself. Explain what made you upset, correlate it to something they will understand from their own relationships with their peers. Share your disappointments as well as your accomplishments with them and they will share theirs with you.
When we first fall in love or begin a friendship with someone we spend hours talking about everything and nothing, we recount our childhood, our fears, and our dreams. Through this we gain closeness with others. To gain closeness with our children we need to tell them these stories as well. When we allow our children to see us as we are, they trust us.
Quality time is time, this doesn't mean that you should spend every waking hour with your child. It means that you should be together when you can. For example, with an older child, have them help you prepare dinner, even if it doesn't save you time, instead of allowing them to be in the other room watching television alone. Take an hour a week to just sit and watch a television program that they like or each of you read your own book on the same couch.
When commuting together, turn off the radio and the MP3 player and instead talk. If they don't want to talk, they can listen to you recount your day. By hearing you recount your day, your challenges, and how you overcame them or how you didn't overcome them, they will learn from you how you deal with problems and they will learn how to tell you about their own day. Magically the wasted commute time, becomes quality time with your children.
When you feel close to your children and they feel close to you, you won't feel guilty that you are not spending enough time with them. You will not magically feel like the perfect parent either. They don't exist, as a parent you will always feel guilty or incompetent about something. But if you feel close to your children and they to you, the burden is lighter.
Written by Susana Alves
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